Me - Please introduce yourself in a few words!
Nupur - Hi, my name is Nupur. I just turned 29 this year, and I’m a Microbiology Lecturer in a College. Teaching is my passion. So yes, I love my profession. I am also blessed with one son who is quite understanding and joyful. We share a strong and unique bond. I live in Nagpur, India.
Me - What made you come to me? What issues were you facing in your life that insisted you to approach me?
Nupur – As a bachelor, I was a carefree, jolly, and happy go lucky person. But as I got married, suddenly everything changed like it was a 360 degree turn in my life. I was unable to figure out why this sudden stress, grief, anxiety is bothering me. Day by day I was just moving towards the worst situations that I was unable to handle. All of that I believed was because of my husband. He is an alcoholic and that bothers me a lot. It irritates me and frustrates me because he doesn’t come home for nights. And wastes a lot of money on drinking and other addictions. Every-time, I confronted him, we would start arguing and fighting, leading to a big mess. I was in the blame game all the time. All the time I was living in stress, either crying or thinking, as in why am I going through all this? I was blaming my husband, my parents, and my in-laws for making my life miserable. My personal as well as my professional life was totally a mess. No growth, no joy, nothing! This made me think along the lines if I wanted to continue living like this or do something about it. This is not the way I wanted my life to be and I am not here to cry and blame others. That's why I thought of reaching out for some help. I started searching for help from everywhere. I tried everything that came in my way. Then one fine day I was scrolling through my YouTube and there I saw a video where someone was talking about spirituality and inner work. That was the moment I felt God had sent me an Angel for my help as I was asking for help. The video was from Zara Ma’am’s channel and she was sharing her wisdom with me. I started following Zara Mam and started watching her videos. I could instantly connect with her and my soul wanted much more. I had sent her an email for a consultation. And then she replied. So there she was on the other side of the phone - listening to my problems with so much patience and understanding.
Me - What wisdom did you learn with me in the sessions of the Inner work program and how did it help you?
Nupur - Zara Mam made me realize that whatever happens with us is because we are creating that for us. She made me understand about the laws of nature and the law of karma - how that works! What you will continuously think and say to yourself, the universe will get it back to you in its multiplication. So, instead of blaming my husband or anyone else I should learn to take responsibility for my own actions. She told me that even before our birth we choose our parents, kids and husband which we are going to deal with after our birth. She clearly told me that I was suffering because I was operating from EGO and not LOVE. At first, I could not understand why she was talking like that but, slowly I started taking more consultations from her and she made me realize where I was going wrong and what actions of mine were generating bad karma which were keeping me stuck. I learnt to identify those patterns and break them. She also taught me that every bad situation or a problem brings a lesson with it. We need to learn those lessons, extract the wisdom and use it to our benefit. For that leads to our soul growth. She even suggested a few books to read which I started reading. Then as per her advice, I started making a gratitude journal every night and started writing affirmations. I could see some stability in my behavior and some changes but yes as far as my marriage was concerned, I was still confused and suffering. Then as per Zara mam’s advice, I went to stay with my parents for some time. To discover myself, to heal myself, away from my husband. Instead of chasing him, I was finding myself. I was healing myself also i had to prepare for my lecturer exams - so it gave me time to focus on that as well.
Me - What changes did you make in your life to achieve those results - choices, decisions, steps etc.?
Nupur – It was very painful and difficult for me to deal with all this. So in order to achieve the desired results - I just blindly believed and followed what Zara mam said. I understood and could relate to each and everything she said. I started making better choices and that helped me in breaking my patterns. I made a decision that from now on I will not play the blame game. I will accept what is needed, I will not go and please everyone, I will not act from my ego. I started chanting mantras, and did chakra meditation which gave me immense peace. I started Ho'oponopono prayer. Journal writing was the best advice I received from Zara Mam. I just don’t know how to express my gratitude to her.
Me - How do you feel at present? Do you feel you are a bigger and a better person, someone who is at peace with herself?
Nupur – Past experiences made me realize that we have to choose from our choices everyday. Yes, we are given choices every single day to operate from our Ego or from our Soul. And now I try to choose SOUL. I’m learning every single day. I learnt that if you feel the world is unfair, you will attract every instance which is unfair. If you believe that the world is smiling at you and is full of kind people, you will meet only kind people and unkind people will automatically fall off from your life. Today I feel capable of handling anything and everything and that too with a smile. I had seen myself transformed from this fragile, sensitive girl to a strong woman who can handle everything with dignity and confidence. I started focusing on my career more. I shifted my focus from my husband and in-laws to my work and the well being of my kid. I keep myself busy with doing yoga, eating healthy and being creative with my work. Life does seem peaceful with that. As far as my husband is concerned - I leave him alone, don’t question him - where is he going? What is he doing? Nor do I ask him if he doesn’t come back home at night. And to my surprise he is guilty of his habits now. He does say that he wants to change and be a better person.
Me - One piece of advice you would like to share with our viewers that this inner work program and your own life experiences taught you.
Nupur – During this inner work program the best and most important thing I understood very well was that you are here for a reason. You are here to learn your lessons and grow. For that life will bring you the challenges and the experiences that are required for your soul growth. The same situation will be repeated again and again until and unless you completely know the correct way to deal with it. So the next lesson I learnt was to “Surrender to Divine Completely” as Zara mam says. Zara mam asked me to watch a show named “Dureshwar” my God that completely changed my view, my perspective about life. It taught me the real meaning of patience and unconditional love. Today also when I feel stuck somewhere I watched that show and it just touches my soul so deeply and always makes me cry. Life is all about unconditional and selfless giving!
Me - Please share how you found your soul mission?
Nupur – As I was suffering from an alcoholic marriage, I was always taught that how other women like me whose husbands are alcoholic would be handling and managing everything. Every woman has desires and dreams but because of her marriage and responsibilities she has to keep them aside. That's why I wanted to open an “Art Café '' for those women where they will spend some quality time, explore their artistic side as well as earn for themselves through their artwork. Thanks a lot Zara mam for taking me to this wonderful part of me. No matter how many times I express my gratitude to you for your support and guidance it will never be enough.
Thank You,
Nupur Deshmukh
Love and Light
Zara
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