Hello Beautiful Souls!
Check out the success story of - Neha - getting divorced at the age of 40 - a single parent to her two beautiful daughters.
Neha has been doing her - Inner Work - with me for the past one and half year! When she came to me, she was devastated because her marriage was falling apart, and she wanted to save it at any cost. She showed faith in me and followed everything I told her to do diligently and left the rest to God. We couldn't save her marriage but we did save her from fooling herself nomore and taking charge of her life in her own hands. Today she is a healed feminine, a proud mother and a proud teacher who is living a life of dignity and grace. Surprisingly, she also found her soul mission during our discussion when she was sharing her inner work program results with me!! And without any delay she took a leap of faith to bring it into existence!
Below is our - Inner work program results interview - conversation!
Me - Please introduce yourself in few words!
Neha - Hi, my name is Neha. I just turned 40, and I feel amazing as I believe 40 is the new beginning. I am a Pre Primary teacher and I feel so blessed to be surrounded by young souls. So yes, I love my profession. I am also blessed with two beautiful girls and we share a strong and unique bond. I live in Mumbai, India.
Me - What made you come to me? What issues were you facing in your life that insisted you to approach me?
Neha - We are a family of three, fourth member recently left us. So talking about my marriage, I had a love marriage and my husband (which is soon going to be my ex) filed for divorce recently. Talking about divorce was never easy for me as I come from a middle class conservative family who believes in forever love and breaking up was never an option for me. I had a decent married life until 10 years and soon after our 10th anniversary I came to know that my husband was deeply involved with some other woman and was ready to leave me and the kids for her. That came as a shock as I never even imagined that my husband could ever cheat on me. Or let me say, I could ever be cheated (that was my ego). So, instead of accepting the situation and moving on, I chose to live in disbelief and grief. I fell prey to my ego and started living in self pity and distress. I was shaken, broken and could not accept the situation for years. I wanted some assurance from my husband that he’s mine and will never leave me but unfortunately my husband saw that as my weakness and stayed away from me. Today I realize that probably I pushed him away. I pushed him away with my insecurity, my negativity, my weakness, in short, my EGO. But whatever said and done, whatever happens, happens for a reason, and a good one. I held on to him for the sake of my kids. I was walking round and round, searching for my SOUL MISSION, my reason to live, to be happy and looking for a ‘perfect marriage’. But the more tightly I was trying to hold on to these things, the more quickly they were slipping away from my hands. I was finally looking for PEACE, as I was tired of going in circles for 5 long years. My marriage was on the rocks.
Me - What wisdom did you learn with me in the sessions of Inner work program and how did it help you?
Neha - Then one fine day, I got a call from my bestie in Delhi and she said she had seen some videos on twin flames and spirituality of Zara Mam and I should watch them too. I was already heading towards spirituality at that time as I used to watch BK Shivani videos, did Pranic Healing course and somehow was inclined towards spirituality. So I started following Zara Mam and started watching her videos. I could instantly connect with her and my soul wanted much more. I had sent her an email for a consultation. And then she replied. So there she was on the other side of the phone, and listening to my problems with a smile. Then she made me realize that whatever happens with us is because we are creating that for us. So instead of blaming my husband I should learn to take responsibility of my own actions. She clearly told me that I was suffering because I was operating from EGO and not LOVE. At first, I could not take it, as I had taken many consultations from astrologers from all over India and went to healers and what not to save my marriage in the past but nobody told me that I was operating from my ego. But she said the TRUTH. I was in shock! Slowly I started taking more consultations from her and she made me realize where I was going wrong and what actions of mine were generating bad karma which were keeping me stuck. I learnt to identify those patterns and break them. She also taught me that every bad situation or a problem brings a lesson with it. We need to learn those lessons, extract the wisdom and use it to our benefit. For that leads to our soul growth. She even suggested few books to read which I started reading. Then as per her advice, I started making gratitude journal every night and started writing affirmations (which I do it religiously till today). I could see some stability in my behavior and some changes but yes as far as my marriage was concerned, I was still confused and suffering. Then as per Zara mam’s advice, I went to Delhi to stay with my parents for sometime. To discover myself, to heal myself, away from my husband. Instead of chasing him, I was finding myself. I was healing myself. During my stay, I read many spiritual books, not out of compulsion, but out of curiosity. Spirituality was attracting me like anything. After a long and tiring day with my classes and kids, I started looking forward to my ‘Me Time’ at night. To write my gratitude Journal, and to read the most amazing books on earth. I got so much wisdom, so much strength and courage. I understood that we are all born with a unique gift and a purpose. And the Higher Purpose is to be close to God. To live life selflessly, for yourself and for others, and to love unconditionally, to forgive everyone and everything, to attract love, to become LOVE. Yes, I had learnt my lesson!! To not to be a slave of my EGO, to forgive and move on. So, I decided to go back to Mumbai to be with my husband. Not to chase him this time or to expect from him, but to love him unconditionally. But the day I called him to tell him that I’m coming back, he told me that he had filed for DIVORCE. And there I was shattered all over again. But this time, I took care of myself. I called Zara Mam instantly and she made me realize that his role in my life was over and I should also move on. Although it took me days to recover from this news, but I had gathered enough strength to accept the situation now with grace instead of living in disbelief and resistance. Also, Zara mam had a channeling for me that "I should seek someone else". But I was living in a hope that things between my husband and I will get better because I was doing all the inner work suggested by her with an intention to mend things with my husband. I even took a Tarot session with her and it clearly showed that I'm going to attract my spiritual partner now. That was assuring and convincing for me because I was working on raising my vibration and choosing to operate from love than ego.
Me - What changes did you make in your life to achieve those results - choices, decisions, steps etc.?
Neha - Now I had to make a choice. To live in Delhi with my parents or to live alone in Mumbai with my 2 girls. Then she taught me the art of surrendering to divine and see what universe brings for me. I SURRENDERED completely. I let go of the need to control my situation my way. And I realized that once you surrender, you get to hear answers from your subconscious mind, from the guardian angels from up above. And I listened to my instinct this time, instead of asking ten thousand people, which I used to do before. I decided to go back, to give it a try and live in Mumbai alone. It's been 6 months now and I truly believe that it's one of the best decisions of my life. I’m happy here, content and truly feel complete. Handling the kids alone in a city where you don’t have anybody was difficult, but not impossible. I achieved all this with SURRENDER and FAITH. With WISDOM and KNOWLEDGE. The moment, we came to Mumbai, my husband left the house. At first, I was in-secured about my kids education, and future. But later I realized that things started turning in my favor. I get some money from my husband every month and more than anything, I am blessed to have the support of my father who supports me emotionally as well as financially. I have the most amazing friends in my society who I can rely upon anytime. And no, I don’t live in self pity anymore. I live happily and gracefully now with strength, grace and wisdom.
Me - How do you feel at present? Do you feel you are a bigger and a better person, someone who is at peace with herself?
Neha - So I’m going through divorce now. And as I live everyday, I realize that we have to choose from our choices everyday. Yes, we are given choices every single day..to operate from your Ego or from your Soul. And now I try to choose SOUL. I’m learning every single day. For instance, when you go through divorce, your lawyer will tell you many different things, of what actions to take, how our case will become strong and most of all, how his case will become weak. But I realized, this all is a big game of Ego. I got trapped in this ego game once and tried to manipulate my husband with his weak point as suggested by my lawyer. And that’s when the teachings of Zara Mam and all the spiritual books came in, and I realized that I have to choose my peace of mind above all. I remember that Zara mam taught me to set an intention before you do anything because it is your intention that matters. From her I learnt that I will never attain peace by bringing the other person down although he’s from opposite party and is hell-bent on troubling you. I learnt that every single thing on this planet can be won with LOVE and only LOVE. No war, no ego games. Only forgiveness and Love. So,I chose love. Today I’m a better person. I’m at peace with myself and the world. I wish for my husband’s well being and wish him well in future. I learnt that if you feel the world is unfair, you will attract every instance which is unfair. If you believe that world is smiling at you and is full of kind people, you will meet only kind people and unkind people will automatically fall off from your life. Today I feel capable of handling anything and everything and that too with a smile. I had seen myself transformed from this fragile, sensitive girl to a strong woman who can handle everything with dignity.
Me - One piece of advice you will like to share with our viewers that this inner work program and your own life experiences taught you.
Neha - So if I have to advise the world something with my experience, I will just say that I’m a simple girl just like you who believes in simple living, happy ending and perfect family life. But if due to any reason, you feel that you are failing somewhere or not happy, then it's time to introspect. Look within. Before taking any action, think about the intention of that action. Is it to bring someone down, is it feeding your ego, or is it to make others smile. The choice is yours to make. And once you take an action, DO NOT ever blame anyone for it. You make choices for your life. If the action is not so good, you always have a choice to learn a lesson from it and move on and never live in guilt. And accept any situation with smile and grace. And the best thing is to surrender completely. I used to make a fool of myself by telling everyone that I surrendered to God, to Universe, but actually I didn’t. If I had, I would have not had been living in insecurity. You know that you have truly surrendered - when there is peace in what you do and how you feel. Enjoy each and every moment of this beautiful life. And also to always try to live in PRESENT MOMENT as we have no control over future or our past. Also to never take our life so seriously. By feeling this way, you will never feel pity for yourself and people will respect you for your strength and high spirit.
With God’s grace, when I left everything on Universe, I started getting calls from everywhere to enquire about my classes and due to word of mouth, I’m getting more and more kids for my classes. I learnt to ignore people who were giving me advices that I need more money for me and my kids future and being a teacher will never get me money. This time I listened to my soul and Zara mam's words - which is to have faith in divine and go with the flow. My soul gets happy when I teach small kids and since the time I surrendered to the Universe completely, I kept getting money in my bank account from unexpected sources. Yes, this is true. And I’m loving it. I love the power of Surrender. I love the power of Gratitude. I love the power of Affirmations. Trust me, It's MAGICAL.
Now I don’t get worried thinking about my future , instead I have faith and believe that if God had planned divorce, then he will surely have a plan for my kids too. He will never leave us alone and will keep holding our hands. Of course, that doesn’t mean that I just sit and relax , I work hard and leave everything to God. He knows the best for us. He will never give us a situation which we can't handle. And my kids also are living with the same attitude and positivity. In fact, they also write their daily Gratitude Journal. I strongly believe that each and every child should be taught about emotional healing. About Gratitude. And I teach this to all my students as well. Early childhood education must comprised of mental wellbeing.
Me - Please share how you found your soul mission?
Neha - Zara mam and I were discussing results of my inner work program. During that discussion Mam brought up that I'm doing really good and now we just have to figure out your soul mission. In fact that discussion itself with Zara Mam was the best thing that happened to me. She made me realize that if I think children should be taught spirituality at such an early age, then I must do something to fulfill my dream. She said that I should start an inner work program for kids and share what ever I have learnt from my experience with them. This gave me an idea to start a Mindfulness Program for the wellbeing of the kids so that they can learn to express themselves more authentically. My intention is to share the gift of spirituality with the children so that they are grateful and happy and learn to express their emotions openly without any fear. And I strongly believe that this must be taught at an early age.
In the end, I will say, what you sow is what you reap. So keep doing good and never fall prey to your EGO. Today I’m moving out of my 16 years old marriage and I’m happy, content and at peace. HUGE THANKS TO ZARA MAM for making it possible for me and providing me the courage, support and strength to do so. She taught me how to live a life - free of guilt and full of happiness, peace, joy and abundance. 😁
Some of the books that shaped me as a person are:
The Secret, You can Heal your life, The power of Now, The power of your subconscious mind, the Alchemist, The Seat of the soul, Ahalya’s awakening, A new earth, Zero Limits by Joe Vitale, The laws of the spirit world, Bhagwat Gita As it is, The Untethered Soul etc.
Thank You,
Neha Thakur
Zara's Wisdom - To feel good and to be loved is your birthright! You don’t need a reason to feel good or loved - YOU ARE LOVE yourself! So spread the energy and let it go viral!
Love and Light
Zara😍
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