Are you in a relationship that doesn’t serve you well? Are you constantly complaining about your partner? Do you have numerous problems that are just draining you out? Are you tired of talking it out and seeing it turn into arguments rather than getting resolved? Does lot of your energy goes in lifting up his energy? Do you think something is off all the time? Are you constantly trying to change him with an intention to help elevate him but failed miserably?
Please ask yourself:
Have you ever tried changing yourself rather than expecting him to change? Yes, the key is to work on yourself not him. Because the universal law is that you can only change yourself and no one else. When you change yourself, it’s your love that changes them. If we change our thoughts, our attitude, we acquire the power to transform any relationship. It all begins with the willingness to work on yourself. Why do I say this? It’s because if there are infinite problems in the relationship, the possibility is that both are unawakened souls. If one person out of the two decides to change the dynamics of the relationship, the relationship will take a new form. It all begins with setting an INTENTION to transform! The moment you create an intention of improvising your relationship with your partner and put it into the universe, the entire universe conspires to support your intention and brings you solutions to your problems. These solutions can be in the form of insights, meaningful coincidences such as watching a movie or coming across a book/blog or a mentor giving relationship advice on you tube. You may wonder if this may work? Yes it does because that’s the law of attraction. It’s all about the kind of energies and intentions you send to the universe. What you give is what you get back. If one of the two partners sets an intention to take the relationship to next level that means that soul has awakened. Once the soul has awakened, there are two possibilities.
1. The awakened soul can learn the lesson, quit the relationship and decide to move on. Such relationships are called Karmic relationships. And it’s not fair to hold on to the other person and keep suffering. This is a situation where one soul has elevated and is looking for a soul that exhibits the same vibrational frequency. In such cases divorce occurs.
2. Second situation is when the awakened soul has learnt the lesson, is willing to do the work on himself, then shares that change with other partner which in turn transforms the relationship. This will help you salvage your relationship and take it to the next level. Because if you change yourself then everything around you changes.
My story:
My husband and I had a very rough relationship. I lost all hopes that it will ever get better. I became so bitter that I decided to give divorce and move on. Now on one side I was asking for divorce and the other side I was praying to God for it to get better. First, I tried everything in my capacity to salvage my relationship. I even went to a counselor. But the counselor said if you are not happy then leave him and move on. My husband went to a different counselor and he also learned the same thing. So he also made up his mind to move on. Just then I had a spiritual awakening. It gave me a message – “Go to your home and start all over again. Look at his good side and seek forgiveness for your mistakes and pay gratitude for all the good he has done to you.” I contacted an astrologer. The astrologer said its karmic relationship and is not bound to last. If you have changed then don’t go back. So I never went back.
But I wasn’t sure because on the other hand my spirit guides were giving me a message to look at the situation from a different perspective. And that’s probably because I was also trying to save it. Yes, the LAW OF ATTRACTION says if you are trying to put wobbly energy to the universe, it brings back the wobbly energy to you. I was thinking of divorce at the same time I was thinking of manifesting love. So I was sending out conflicting energy to the universe. Now the energy that has the highest vibrational frequency wins. We did get divorced because he was ready to divorce and I was confused but since his intention was stronger I had no control over it. But are we getting back together, yes coz I had to do lot of work on myself and also there is karma involved. So there is pending karma that I have to pay back to balance my energies. This is how my soul has chosen to evolve! It's not simple. It may take days or it may take years. In my case it took me 3 years to attain my highest self in order to attract him through manifestation of love. Every soul has a journey. This is my soul's journey. And during the journey you may notice that every person you meet acts as a teacher to you.
When I was praying to GOD for helping me save my relationship, I had a spiritual awakening. During that awakening I had a dream to watch the movie called - The SECRET! I saw the movie on Netflix and immediately learnt that any broken relationship can be transformed. You just have to do a little work on yourself. It begins with shifting your mindset and vibrational frequency. Bringing acceptance that yes you are committing to do the work is the first step of generating positive energy towards your intention.
The biggest devil you have to fight is your ego. Yes, ego means Edging God Out. Where there is ego, love cannot reside. If you want to manifest love, there shouldn't be a single drop of ego. Second, I learnt was that my relationship was suffering because I was focusing on his negatives. Now focusing on someone's negatives creates negative thoughts. Negative thoughts create negative feelings and negative feelings result in negative actions. This is what led to separation between us. The root cause is we have too much expectations/desires from our partner. We tend to find faults and complain about what we don’t have rather than focusing on what we have. Per law of attraction wherever our energy goes, our focus expands. All I had to do was to start focusing on his positives. The shift is just a thought away. I decided to journal down what is one thing he does good for me or for the family. Second thing I learnt was Appreciation is a great virtue. The more you appreciate the more it multiplies. The more you complain the more you lose things and create harsh lessons for yourself in life.
Even though I learnt all this, I was still skeptical of going and applying it on him. May be because of my fear or may be because I wasn’t sure that it will work. So I decided to try it on my other relationships first. I tried it on my colleagues; it worked wonders. I got comments like “you are full of surprises.” I was thrilled to hear this. It boosted my confidence and made me felt amazing as a person. But before I could gather courage to go apply it on my husband, it took me 3 years to build faith upon myself.
Like Steve Harvey says - “When you ask God for something, you gotta have faith.” It’s his promise that he will bring it to you but he will only deliver it to you at an appointed time. You gotta wait at the FAITH STREET, if you wait at the TOO LONG AVENUE, you will miss the package and it will be taken back. I (Zara) waited too long to comprehend my awakening message and develop faith on my spirit guides. Please don’t wait much; rather work on yourself and have patience and faith. GOD will ship the box to you at the right time at the right place. It just takes alignment to receive it!! The moment you learn the lesson and align yourself with what you asked for, it will come to you sooner than later. Also, be careful about your intention/ask what you wish for. Remember if you set an intention for divorce, universe will perpetuate the same but if you set an intention to make it better, universe will support that. The one with the highest frequency vibration will win. So be careful about the tussle going on inside you. Be very clear with the kind of energy/intention you generate for the universe. Remember Like attracts like! Universe has no autocorrect! It will produce what you ask for no matter what. Yes there can be a karmic retribution involved. For example if you asked for something and it became a lesson for you, it means before you could have it, you had to pay off some karmic debts. Not in the form of punishment for the universe rather this is universe’s compassionate way of preparing you for what you asked for. Universe wants to make sure that you are prepared to receive it. That you are aligned with your ask so that when it comes to you, you value it enough. Remember Gratitude is the best Attitude!
NOTE – Please don’t wait for 3 years like me. If you have decided to become whole, take action now. Action catalyzes wisdom!! Fear reduces as you move towards your goal!! Always chose to operate from Love! Hope you will use this piece of advice to transform your relationship. GOOD LUCK!
Lets put together the steps you can take:
1. Focus on good things/ his positives
2. Every soul needs approval and appreciation. Accept and Appreciate!
3. Practice Forgiveness and Gratitude.
4. Be clear about your intention/energy
5. Operate from highest self - unconditional love
6. Elevate your soul by elevating his
7. Have faith and patience
8. Be in alignment with your wish
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